1. When there are more than two people in a room, there may be times when you address a single chatter and the other users think you’re talking to everyone. The best way to prevent confusion is to type the name of the person to whom you are talking. Ex: Person's name - Your question or comment.

2. Writing in all capital letters is perceived as SHOUTING and therefore rude. Accidents happen and everyone has hit the “Caps Lock” unintentionally. If this happens, disengage your “Caps Lock” and continue with the discussion.

3. Unless you are in a “meet and greet” room, it is best to observe the discussion for a while before jumping in. This will allow you to work out what the others are talking about, as well as the tone of the conversation.

4. You should not expect a hello or goodbye from everyone in the room, especially in rooms that are created for specific topics. Once a discussion is under way, many people are too focused on the topic to notice every person who enters the room.

5. It is only polite to ask another chatter if you may send them a PM (private message) before doing so. You shouldn’t harass other users with PMs (private messages) if they tell you they don‘t use PM or if you PM them and they ask that you refrain from doing so again.

6. We provide an “ignore user” feature so that chatters may screen the conversations they receive on their screen. Instead of being involved in unwanted or unnecessary arguments, you may ignore any user you choose.

7. There are some people who have a lot of spare time to spend in various chat rooms. Please remember that, even if you have been chatting at a room or site for many years, that you aren’t the owner of the chat room unless your name is on the site as such. It is the job of the room moderators (at this site, the Servants) to enforce the TOS. Also, even long time users of a particular room need to remember that it isn’t their job to control the conversation. Every user has equal access and the right to speak as they wish. The only exception to such a guideline is if a chatter is leading a study of some sort with the permission of the owner/Servants.

8. It is acceptable to ask for people’s A/S/L (age/sex/location), but should never be your first question upon entering a room. Also, it is considered rude to insist to know that information even when the other users refuse to share that information. It is up to each user whether or not they share what they may consider personal or unimportant to the topic being discussed.

9. It is very rude to tell other chatters to "shut up", “go to another room”, or in any way imply that they are stupid or that their opinions are not welcome. As in number 7, it is the Servants jobs to enforce the TOS or attempt to keep the discussion from being interrupted.

10. Both scrolling and flooding are considered rude. Scrolling is typing one or two words per post causing your name and comments to be the only ones on the screen. Flooding is typing and posting more than one or two sentences at a time, creating post so long as to cause other users to have to scroll to read the entire post. Both of these should be avoided.